Frederick E Feeley Jr
2 min readDec 30, 2020

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First off, I would get him in front of a counselor. For some reason, he has an issue with women. Misogyny is rooted in hatred and hatred can come from fear, it can come from pain, it can come from experiences that may have shaken him.

Has he had issues with your divorce? Are you sure?

Secondly, you should have stopped the conversation right then and there and explained to him, in front of his friends, why he was wrong. Sometimes shaming does help (Sorry, not sorry). and he should be ashamed of what he said. That's detrimental to any woman in his life or any woman who will come into his life.

Thirdly, I would try and figure out who these friends are. Kids are idiots. Their brains aren't fully developed and if one of those little bastards perhaps has a dad who isn't as developed as he should be, could be influencing your kid without you knowing.

People emulate their heroes always and in all ways - Maya Angelou.

Put a stop to that friendship immediately.

Fourth, I would get ahold of all the media he has and go through it. If he's listening to music that's "Fuck this hoe, fuck that bitch," I'd chuck it. I am one of those people. You ain't bringing that shit into my house I don't care what that makes me. I'd be all over his social media, too.

Fifth, you need to handle this sternly, decisively, and with an iron fist. You have a potential victimizer in your midst who just told you what his beliefs are. You are compelled not only as his father, but as a citizen of this country, to do whatever it takes to prevent some poor girl from being the victim of his distortion.

Sixth, I know that broken families there's this competition to be the good guy in the relationship with your kid - but that's bullshit. You're his dad. You love your kid. You're not his buddy, his pal, his homie. You're the boundary setter, the rule setter, the stability giver as best you can in this circumstance.

I wish you luck.

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Frederick E Feeley Jr
Frederick E Feeley Jr

Written by Frederick E Feeley Jr

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